Hi Webmaster of truthordarepics.com,

Here is a piece of advice to the guys out there who would like to introduce their girlfriends or wives to dares. First of all don't rush anything!!!! In our case, there was a general shared interest in erotica going way back, including toys, playful bondage, stories (I used to send her some from one of those old story sites in the mid-nineties).

We tried renting porn movies a number of times but were always turned off by the artificiality. I told her I had found a site where ordinary people posted pics of themselves (truthordarepics), but for some reason it was hard to get her interested. Finally one night after a romantic dinner with plenty of wine when the tykes were away, and still fresh from a conversation about our dissatisfaction with commercial porn, I convinced her to look at some of the dares by telling her what a thrill it would be for me to look at them together.

She was immediately mesmerized and hugely turned on. We had recently taken some pics of ourselves a few times with a new digital camera, so the second or third time we read some dares, on a romantic evening I told her that our stuff was easily just as hot, and maybe if we expected other people to put themselves out there it was only fair that we should brave it ourselves. To my amazement, she agreed. So we put together the hottest set of pics she was comfortable with, which were of her slowly masterbating. I tried to get her to open her legs wider but she was hesitant and I took that as a cue to ease off. Remember guys that too much pressure sends you backwards not forwards. When I showed them to her afterwards I was pretty sure she would change her mind, but she didn't - partly, I think, because it was such a flattering portrayal of her charms. I haven't tried to get her interested in looking at other sites, mostly because sifting through all of them can actually be a real turn-off, and neither of us has ever been as interested in porn stars as in real people.

If your girlfriend/wife doesn't know you're into looking at this kind of stuff and doesn't already have an interest in such things herself, I'd say the biggest hurdle is to get that on the table without making her feel threatened or turned off - that you're looking elsewhere for sex instead of focusing on her. It might be a good idea to start with photographing or filming her - tell her how gorgeous she is and how much of a turn-on it could be. Then once she's gotten used to being the object of such attention, and you've shown her how great you can make her look on camera, tell her you've found a site where people share these sorts of things, and would she like to have a look? Our 2 cents and our pics. Hope it does some damage LOL - Rob & Amy