When my wife I were dating, she was very conservative sexually. She had one other partner that she had intercourse with, and had fooled around with a couple other guys. No oral, handjobs were the furthest.
Eight and a half years ago we got married. She enjoyed sex and would give me oral sex often enough.
A couple years into our marriage we started watching porn together occasionally. Still, same sexual activities. Sex was great, but nothing wild or crazy. I remember once we had a conversation and the word dildo came up and she was completely turned off. Actually, I didn't know why women would use them either.
About 4 yrs ago, as time went on, I wanted to do more stuff with her sexually. She started enjoying me cumming on her chest at times. She also enjoyed me rubbing near (but not in) her asshole during foreplay.
I developed the desire, a strong desire, to have another guy share my wife with me around a year and a half ago. I noticed that when we watched porn the MFM scenes got her very, very wet. I asked her how she could watch DP when she hates anal and fast forward thru all the things she doesn't like , such as anal sex or lesbian scenes. She said that when a girl is having sex with two guys it's the girls reaction that she likes. She also liked watching scenes where one guy is getting a bj and the other is having sex with the girl at the same time.
Over the past year, there's been more changes. She was having a difficult pregnancy with our second child (everything turned out great )but we were unable to have sex for a while do to the circumstances. I thought using a dildo instead of having a real life third party may help. I told her how I'd love to see a dildo inside her while she gives me a blowjob. Within a day or two she had a dream about just that! During the next week or so, she had several similar dreams, one where the dildo was on the bed "near her butt" as she said, she was lying on her back, and I was having sex with her. During this time, she also let me cum on her face a few times. She didn't totally love it, but was ok with it. Although she has NEVER let me cum in her mouth, EVER, she now gives me oral virtually every time we have foreplay and she says giving me oral puts her in the mood.
Just this past July, after looking together online for foreplay stories (it's how we found this site) we bought a dildo and used it on her for sex while she gave me oral sex. We used it probably a dozen times and she really enjoys it.
All of these changes are really exciting. I know she's made a lot of progress but most important is our relationship and family. I want to be open and honest....BUT......If I had told her I wanted to use a dildo on her, or her to use one, and I said this to her 5 yrs ago she would have thought me to be insane. She's gotten so much more relaxed but I dont want to push my luck, either. We are patient and willing to keep up this pace. For now reading your dares and playing with our new toy is great. She even was okay with this picture being posted. You can't really identify her and that makes her feel safe.
I guess I've evolved a lot too. 10 yrs ago I would have gotten SO mad if say, she went and saw male strippers. Now, I'd be totally cool with it and she may go soon with her friends too. - D&T