So we were back in the states for a little more than a year and a half, while I attended training and got my next assignment. I had requested to go back to Germany, but got assigned state side, right there on the same base as as my training.
It actually worked out, because I ended up getting a couple of more last minute classes because of no shows. I was also able to do a lot of networking which resulted in me being able to get back to Stuttgart. Since we were military overseas, she was able to fast track her citizenship. I ended up being assigned back to the states right after she became a US citizen.
While we had been back in Germany, she worked on the economy, and she would go back to her home town or visit her aunt, for a couple of days about once a month. Her job was paying enough to cover expenses, so I had no problem with her going, especially, since we were very short staff and I was working nearly every weekend, and seldom got more than one day off in a row. I was finally able to visit her family once. They had an old farm on the edge of a larger town that was 1/2 an hour from where I had met my bride.
When we go back to the states and she wasn't able to get a job, but I had gotten promoted early, twice, so finances was no problem. She started going back to visit her family for a month, about every 6 months. But one time while she was gone, I was doing our taxes and happened to notice her European bank account statement. I wasn't really snooping, but it's required to be reported.
When she got back I asked her how her income was going up , when she wasn't working? She said she would line up work to do while she was back at home.
Thats when I pressed her on the type of work she was doing, because it paid so well. I calculated she was making at least 1/2 of what I was making in a year, and she was doing it in less than 2 months.
Well that is when I got my big shock. Now I knew she wasn't a virgin when we met, and knew she had had at least 9 "boyfriends" before we got married, but I wasn't prepared for what I was about to hear.
So she said she had been in a couple of porno movies before we met, just to make some money on the side. She had a job, but she needed the extra money to make ends meet. In fact she had been in one during that trip to her aunts.
She said she didn't plan on making any more after we got together, but apparently, a really rich guy had seen an earlier movie and asked her to be a date to a big weekend event. At first she said no, but he offered to pay for all her experiences, airline tickets nice dress/clothing, ... & more money than she was making in 3 months at her job. She also confessed that after that, his rich friends also started started asking her out.
She said she initially did it because she was afraid I might dump her, like all her previous boyfriends had and she didn't want to have that happen and be poor. By the time she realized how much we loved each other she wasn't sure how to stop. In fact she did stop for almost a year, but when she wasn't able to get a job stateside, she started feeling bad about not contributing to our savings.
Then on a visit to her parents, that first guy found out she was back in country and contacted her through a friend. They had lunch at the most exclusive restaurant in the city and he made an unbelievably generous offer to stay the weekend and be his date to a major exclusive event. She said it was like how much I made in 4 months. She said she just couldn't turn it down. She said the day after the event, he offered even more money to make a private movie with him. She agreed. As it turned out he had two guys making the video and a friend showed up halfway through it and it became a 3 some, that lasted nearly all night long. Then she said he was paying for her to come back nearly twice a year.
Needless to say I got very upset. She was crying and begging me to not get so upset. A couple of days later, after things settled down some we had a serious talk.
Bottom line was she had always looked at it as just sex. Yes, she enjoyed it, but she never had any feelings for the other guys she had been with. She said I was the one she loved. It took a couple of more weeks until we really began to sort things out.
I have to admit I was with more than my share of girls before I met her. I was stationed in Korea and Germany, visited Amsterdam and a ranch outside of Vagas, and arranged for several dates ($). So I really couldn't say a whole lot, other than I had never done anything since we moved in together and got married. Also, she had never made up an excuse to not have sex with me, and lots of times she initiated the fun.
That brings me up to what we have today. I have no problem with her going to visit her family and having her fun.
After the covid restrictions were lifted we visited her family for a month. During the visit we also stayed at the rich guys house for long weekend party. The house is huge and half a dozen of his buddies were there with their wives or girlfriends. My wife was his date for the event and stayed with him ever night. He has a live in gf/maid, that was my date. She was ok looking, but could have looked a whole lot better if she were to lose a few pounds. As it worked out I only spent the first night of the first party with her. The rest of the nights I spent with one of his buddy's GFs or wives. The second party there were a couple of different friends staying. The only thing a little embarrassing for me was in one of the dens there was a large tv showing nothing but porn. It was the first time I had seen any of the movies my wife had been in. And they showed several. I asked my wife if that was all of them, she said no, there were more. I have no idea how many more, she won't say.
By the time we got back to the states, I had been with 9 different women, not counting my wife, to include one young fiancé at the first party and who was a newlywed at the second. Her young groom was having a 3 some with my wife while I spent the night with her.
On top of all that, we were given first class round trip tickets, and my wife said he had made a large deposit into her bank account. Needless to say, we're looking for to next year.